The Beginning
Originally written January 14, 2023 on Instagram
I was born in Phoenix, Arizona to John Kautman and Valerie Randolph. I am the oldest of their two children. My brother is two years younger than me and has the same name as my dad, but is a Jr. My mom was born in 1963 and has two older siblings. I was always told that her family moved from Chicago, IL to Phoenix when my mom was a baby. My dad was one of eight children, 3rd oldest if I remember correctly. He was born in Austin Tx 1960 and they moved to Phoenix when he was a toddler.
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My father told us that he grew up very poor in Tonopah, Az about 50 miles West of Phoenix - the boonies. He said he quit school in 7th grade because a teacher was bullying him for his long hair, and that he was smoking by then too. He would tell us that he was one of three white children in school and he would get chased after school by the Mexican and Black kids trying to jump him. I assume this is the foundation of his extreme racism. I believe in his early teens they moved to Phoenix, and lived right across the street from my mother, which is how they met.
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My mother lived in middle class America, a decent part of town. Her father was a Marine (I remember seeing the tattoo on his arm) and later a truck driver, her mother held random part time jobs here and there. My mom got pregnant with me towards the end of her senior year of high school, and married my dad just after graduating high school.
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My parents always kept their distance from the Kautman side of the family. We would only see the whole family once a year or less maybe, unless someone got married or died. There were stories we would hear about my dad having a different father to all of his other siblings, apparently a confession made to him on the death bed of one of his dying aunts. The reason why we were kept from the Kautman side of the family, even more so as we got older, will become very apparent as I continue to share my experiences.
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I feel like this is a good intro to start with, stay tuned.
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