Daddy’s Hands
There was a popular country song back in the late 80s and 90s. It was called “Daddy’s Hands” by Holly Dunn. Back in the day that was mine and my dad’s song. I used to think it was so cool to glorify my dad with a song, we would sing it together whenever it came on the radio.
But that was before I started remembering the abuse I suffered at the hands (no pun intended) of that man.
As I started remembering and reflecting up my horrific childhood, this song came back into memory. It gave me the creeps to think I once loved that song because it represented the love between my father and I.
For context, here are part of the lyrics in the song…
“Daddy's hands were soft and kind when I was cryin'
Daddy's hands were hard as steel when I'd done wrong
Daddy's hands weren't always gentle but I've come to understand
There was always love in daddy's hands”
This song, while lyrically and melodically sounds lovely, the words are very sinister. At a very basic level, it primes people to believe abuse is ok - when it most definitely is not.
When I heard this as a child, I saw a beautiful successful country singer saying it was ok for her father to punish her and hurt her, so my own horrifying experiences must be ok too. Because even when he hurts me terribly, that shows me that he loves me.
What an absolute mind fuck - especially as a child.
Any violence done to a child, in any way - sexual, physical, mental, emotional, verbal, causes deep wounds and creates a society in which people are disconnected from their heart and soul, and true purpose in life.
It creates robots who run on programs that have been beaten into place to ensure they stay small, follow authority, and to keep dirty little secrets for the family that “loves” you and sacrificed everything for you.
Guilting and shaming you into you playing the familial role that was assigned.
Until one day… you choose to no longer play by those rules because you learn from a random stranger on the internet that any hurt is NOT real love. Everything she teaches explains why you are the way you are, and your heart ignites once again with passion and light that you haven’t felt since you were a small child - before your family successfully dimmed your light.
So you choose to no longer have in your life the people who hurt you, and you start healing from a life time of abuse.
The words above are mine only and they are also my perceptions, my opinions and my experiences alone.
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